I was spending time with family during this past Labor Day, and it still surprises me that no matter how old you are, certain things a mother says can ultimately put you in a space you hadn’t expected to be. A simple comment can catch you off guard, leaving you emotionally stung even if you brush it off. You think, “Wow, okay,” and because you love your mom with all your heart, you move on.
But here’s where the breakthrough comes in. While I used my mom as an example, this feeling can arise from many encounters, as in friends, colleagues, siblings, dads, acquaintances, sons, daughters, you get the point. The real magic happens when we learn not to internalize these moments or take them personally.
Instead of replaying and revisiting that emotion, we can welcome it, feel it, let it pass through, and then take the lesson. If it warrants a conversation later, that’s okay, as long as we recognize that not every comment or reaction is a reflection of our worth. So there’s no need to make it bigger than it has to be. Because, in truth, it’s never as big as it seems, and most of the time, it’s not even about you.
When we learn to let go, to feel without clinging, we reclaim our power. We allow ourselves to be present, to understand that what others say or do often speaks more about them than it does about us. By releasing the need to internalize, we create space for peace, growth, and deeper connections with those we love. In this way, we turn what could be emotional setbacks into opportunities for self-discovery and healing.🙏🏾🧘🏾♀️☮️😏🌿☀️
